I have counseled many young men to break up with the woman they were dating because they had made her their life. She was the sun of his universe, around which he orbited. A man needs a much bigger orbit than a woman. He needs a mission, a life purpose, and needs to know his name. Only then is he fit for a woman, for only then does he have something to invite her into.
John Eldredge, Wild At Heart
It is so hard to look deep inside yourself. My experience has been that very few people do the long, hard work of the soul. Maybe that’s why Jesus said the way is narrow.
I’m hoping that wherever you are on your journey, you are tracking with me. I beg you to get help wherever you need it. Go to a counsellor. Make an appointment. Go on a retreat. Spend a couple of days in silence. Do whatever it takes.
If you’re barely holding on, come clean. Tell somebody. Tell everybody if you have to. Check yourself in somewhere. What is it ever going to mean for you to gain the whole world if you lose your soul in the process?
I say the system has to be changed. It has to be destroyed and replaced not with another system but with an entirely new way of life. I see it happening, and it gives me great hope. I see leaders getting help and refusing to stuff it anymore. I see communities embracing the brokenness of their leaders, and healing is taking place. I see honesty. I see people who want to be fully alive. I see people who want the life Jesus promises and who are willing to let go of ego and prestige and titles to get it.
I’m learning that very few people actually live from their heart. Very few live connected with their soul. And those few who do the difficult work, who stare their junk in the face, who get counsel, who let Jesus into all of the rooms in their soul that no one ever goes in, they make a difference. They are so different; they’re coming from such a different place that their voices inevitably get heard above others. They are pursuing wholeness and shalom, and it’s contagious. They inspire me to keep going.
Rob Bell, Velvet Elvis
“To girls with messy hair and thirsty hearts” - Tiger Lily by Jodi Lynn Anderson
Never let anyone else’s recipe for success intimidate you or get in your way. Know your own truth, and live by it.
For better or for worse, I’ve got a brand. The orange clogs, the ponytail, the attitude, my seemingly fluency in Italian. It’s instantly recognizable. But what matters to me is it’s not fake.
What I started figuring out after I left school and began poking around is that you’ve got to pay attention to the truth. It’s not an intellectual thing—it’s a gut thing. My truth is that I love real, passionate, intense experiences. Experiences that don’t apologize for themselves or claim to be something they aren’t. That’s what I want to give people when they eat in my restaurants or watch my shows or read my books. Truth, passion, intense hits of joy. That’s my brand. And I’m not talking about marketing or focus groups or giving a second thought about what anyone else thinks. The kind of brand I’m talking about is nothing more—and nothing less—than your own truth, expressed consistently by you.
Mario Batali, Life Is Not a Recipe
“Then He shall become a sanctuary.”